Let's talk more about some of the arrangements people come up with for nonmonogamy.

让我们更多地讨论人们为非一夫一妻制提出的一些安排。

But I think one of the first distinctions you can make is that there's hierarchical nonmonogamy and then nonhierarchical.

但我认为你可以做出的第一个区别是，有等级制的非一夫一妻制，然后是非等级制的。

All right, so you're doing the nonmonogamy.

好吧，所以你实行的是非一夫一妻制。

So first things first - if you're dating new people, you want to be upfront about your approach to nonmonogamy.

所以首先要做的事情是——如果你正在和新朋友约会，你需要坦率地说明你对非一夫一妻制的态度。

What are some of the drawbacks to nonmonogamy?

非一夫一妻制有哪些缺点？

But if you're new to nonmonogamy, you're not going to have those unspoken cultural expectations.

但如果你刚接触非一夫一妻制，你就不会有那些不言而喻的文化期望。

And if you're someone who wants to explore nonmonogamy, but your partner is really not interested, what do you do with that?

如果你想探索非一夫一妻制，但你的伴侣真的不感兴趣，你会怎么做？

I mean, it just seems like there are a lot of thorny difficulties that can come up around monogamy and nonmonogamy.

我的意思是，一夫一妻制和非一夫一妻制似乎会出现很多棘手的困难。

Considering how hard this can all be to set up and to keep going, why would someone consider nonmonogamy?

考虑到这一切的建立和维持是多么困难，为什么有人会考虑非一夫一妻制呢？

Just on the jealousy front, I feel like that is one of the things that keeps people from trying nonmonogamy... Yeah.

就嫉妒而言，我觉得这是阻止人们尝试非一夫一妻制的原因之一… … 是的。

Nonmonogamy can look a lot of different ways and come in a lot of different flavors depending on what you're looking for.

非一夫一妻制可以有很多不同的方式，并且有很多不同的风格，具体取决于你想要什么。

And regardless of if you're exploring nonmonogamy solo or with any partners, make sure you're on the same page about the details.

无论您是独自探索非一夫一妻制还是与任何合作伙伴一起探索，请确保您在细节上达成一致。

That's when it's time for you to reflect on yourself and try to identify, is nonmonogamy a core identity for me - something I won't compromise on?

那时你应该反思自己并尝试确定，非一夫一妻制是我的核心身份吗？我不会妥协？

So within hierarchical nonmonogamy, that usually means that you have a primary relationship or relationships, and then you can also have secondary relationships which have less priority to you, basically.

因此，在等级制非一夫一妻制中，这通常意味着您拥有一个或多个主要关系，然后您还可以拥有对您来说优先级较低的次要关系。

We'll discuss how to decide if nonmonogamy is right for you, how that can look in your life and also how to gauge if you like what you're doing.

我们将讨论如何确定非一夫一妻制是否适合您，它对您的生活有何影响，以及如何衡量您是否喜欢自己正在做的事情。

Liz actually pointed out another scenario to me, which is that, a lot of the time, people come to nonmonogamy when they're already in a committed, monogamous relationship, and then they start having an attraction for someone else.

莉兹实际上向我指出了另一种情况，那就是，很多时候，当人们已经处于一种忠诚的、一夫一妻制的关系中时，他们就会转向非一夫一妻制，然后他们开始对别人产生吸引力。