Putting it bluntly we could say that the people pleaser is a liar.

我们可以坦白地说，讨好者是个骗子。

The next word we have is a crowd pleaser.

下一个词是取悦大众。

For example, the older child — thought to be a people pleaser, responsible, reliable, cautious but perhaps bossy and controlling.

例如，大一点的孩子——被认为讨人喜欢、有责任心、可靠、谨慎，但也可能是专横且控制欲强的人。

Pleasers often spread themselves thin, trying to be everything to everyone when it's not realistic.

取悦者经常忙得不可开交，试图为每个人付出一切。

Selfishness in its most basic form is thinking of yourself and that's what a full-on people pleaser does.

自私最基本的表现形式是为自己着想，这就是一个彻头彻尾的取悦他人者所做的事情。

So a crowd pleaser usually means that a lot of people or the audience really loved it.

所以取悦大众通常意味着很多人或观众真的很喜欢它。

Pleasers are uncomfortable with conflict and deal with disagreements by often giving in or making up for them quickly.

请求者对冲突感到不安，并通过经常给予或弥补分歧来应对分歧。

Officials say the new event is a crowd pleaser.

官员们表示，这项新活动很受观众欢迎。

It had the potential to be a crowd pleaser, family film.

它有可能成为取悦大众的家庭电影。

Maybe we're people pleasers or we are uncomfortable in difficult situations.

也许我们是取悦别人的人，或者我们在困难的情况下感到不舒服。

It may smell like wet fur, but it's a real crowd pleaser.

闻起来像湿毛皮　可所有人都爱死它了。

The pleaser often grows up in a home with an overly protective or angry and critical parent.

取悦者长大的家庭，通常有过度保护或易怒且批判的父母。

The people pleaser feels sulky and betrayed because they were angling for adulation and gratitude.

讨好者会感到生气和被背叛，因为他们是在谋求奉承和感激之情。

It's also easy to be a people, pleaser, a people.

也很容易成为一个人民, 取悦, 一个人民。

The pleaser is claiming responsibility of others feelings, thoughts, and actions.

讨好者声称对他人的感情、思想和行为负责。

This accidental perpetrator category are people pleasers, people that are team players, and that's a lot of us.

这种意外肇事者类别是取悦他人的人，具有团队合作精神的人，而我们中的很多人都是这样。

Pleaser is someone who has the emotional need to please others or make them happy.

取悦者是有取悦他人或让他们快乐的情感需求的人。

So what a crowd pleaser means... well, of course, we know a crowd means a lot of people and pleaser means everybody's happy.

那么取悦大众意味着什么......当然，我们知道 crowd 意味着很多人，pleaser 意味着每个人都很开心。

The truth can be uncomfortable and perhaps you need some explanation on how being a people pleaser is actually selfish.

真相可能会让人不舒服，也许你需要一些解释——为什么讨好别人实际上是自私的行为。

When parents are overbearing and have high demands for you, it puts you at a higher risk of being a people pleaser.

当家长严厉督促或对你抱持高度期许，这很有可能让你变得爱讨好他人。