And so that guilt, that sadness, that sympathy we had for them caused us to overgive or overaccommodate.

因此，我们对他们的愧疚、悲伤和同情导致我们过度给予或过度迁就。

Don't overgive to the point where you collapse, because we're still going to need helpers two months from now, and we're still going to need helpers six months from now.

不要过度屈服到崩溃的地步，因为两个月后我们仍然需要帮助者， 六个月后我们仍然需要帮助者。