Because if your father rejects you, or doesn't form a relationship with you, it's as if the spirit of civilisation has left you outside the walls, as of little worth, it's very difficult to recover from that.
因为如果你父亲排斥你, 或者不和你建立关系,就好像文明精神把你丢在墙外一样,一文不值,很难挽回。