Ideal selves are projections of who we aspire to be.

理想的自我是我们渴望成为的人的投影。

Just take a minute to imagine your ideal self.

用一分钟来想一想，你理想中的自己是什么样的。

But you can thrive to accomplish what your ideal self would.

但是你可以茁壮成长，完成理想中的自己想要的。

Turns out creating a virtual avatar function kind of like having an ideal self.

事实证明，创建一个虚拟化身就像拥有一个理想的自我。

For them, self-discipline means ignoring your authentic self in favour of your ideal self.

对他们来说，自律意味着忽略真实的自我而追求理想的自我。

We design our ideal self or an image that is quite different from what we are now.

我们设想出了一个完美的自己或者和现在完全不同的自己。

So even if your ideal self is 20 years down the road, start developing your healthy habits right now.

所以，就算那个完美的自己是在 20 年之后才出现，你现在也要开始培养健康的习惯了。

In the long and confused tangle that follows there will, somewhere, be the shape of an ideal future working self.

在漫长的纠结中，终究会找出未来在职场上发光的理想自我。

At the beginning of the studies, individuals reported on their actual and their ideal selves, and their partners reported on how they view the individuals.

研究一开始，每个研究对象都描述了他们的现实自我和理想自我，其伴侣也描述了他们是如何看待自己的另一半的。

We begin to dream of new possible selves. We design our ideal self or an image that is quite different from what we are now.

我们开始想象自己新的可能性，我们设想出了一个完美的自己或者和现在完全不同的自己。

If you force yourself to do things you don't want to do, if you follow society's ideal, your ideal self will repress your authentic self.

如果你强迫自己去做你不想做的事情，如果你遵循社会的理想，你的理想自我就会压抑你的真实自我。

And others, the studies show, may have a much more difficult time bringing out someone's ideal self or be much more resistant to the Michelangelo effect.

研究表明，还有些人很难让别人展现出理想自我，或者对米开朗基罗效应更加无感。

The Michelangelo effect is not simply about supporting your partner, nor is it about promoting what you think your partner's ideal self should be, Finkel says.

芬克尔认为米开朗基罗效应并不仅是支持你的伴侣，也不在于将另一半打造成你心中认可的理想模样。

An international review of this so-called " Michelangelo phenomenon" shows that when close partners affirm and support each other's ideal selves, they and the relationship benefit greatly.

国际上对这种所谓的" 米开朗基罗现象" 的研究表明，当亲密的伴侣相互肯定并支持对方的理想自我时，他们自身和这段感情都会受益匪浅。

The studies reviewed in the journal article used longitudinal procedures to examine how people grow toward their ideal selves over time as a result of how their partners treat them.

该研究在一篇期刊文章中得到了回顾，它采用了纵向研究的方法，研究人们是如何逐渐随着伴侣对待自己的方式而向理想的自我发展的。

Across studies, individuals were especially likely to grow toward their ideal selves when their partners viewed them in line with this ideal. The process ultimately promoted both relational and personal well-being for both partners.

研究表明，若在理想自我这一点上，研究对象和其伴侣的看法一致，则这样的研究对象更有可能变成理想的自己。 这个过程最终促进了双方的关系和双方的个人幸福感。

Finkel says supporting a partner's image of his ideal self in this way, whether it is a vague yearning or a clearly articulated mental representation, helps the loved one reduce the discrepancy between the actual self and the ideal self.

芬克尔说，以这样的方式支持伴侣对理想自我的想象，无论这种想象是一种模糊的渴望，还是一种清晰的心理表征，都有助于帮助所爱的人缩小现实自我和理想自我之间的差距。

For example, when focusing on promotion goals, people consider their ideal self, their aspirations and gains. They don't think about what they can lose, so they think in a happier mode. They feel more inspired to change.

比如，当人们关注的是提升性目标时，他们会想到理想中的自己、他们的抱负和收获，而不会想到自己可能会失去的东西，他们会以一种更开心的模式进行思考，会更激发他们去做出改变。

But if you become a disciple of yourself, if you understand your own genuine feelings, desires, and nature, if you discover your own ideal, your ideal self will work harmoniously with your authentic self to promote growth.

但如果你成为自己的门徒，如果你了解自己的真实感受、愿望和本性，如果你发现了自己的理想，你的理想自我就会与你的真实自我和谐地合作，共同促进成长。